I’ve heard so many arguments, that the “gay homosexuals” are ruining “the family”.  Quite frankly, I’m disgusted.  Even though I myself am not homosexual, I take offense in people hating on others just because of their sexual orientation.

You want to know who is really ruining the family?  Or what the family is?
Well, the “family” is supposedly still the ideal “nuclear family”- a mother, a father, and between 1.2 and 3.5 children, living in a grand two story house with a picket fence and a lush green yard where a golden retriever runs around joyfully.  

In case you haven’t noticed, that is only an IDEAL.  Today, the family could mean any number of things

-a single parent with either biological or adopted children
-a couple living together with extended family
-a group of people sharing the same home and loving coexistantly
-a parent and step parent sharing children with the other parent and step parent
-a couple living together, not married, but raising children

and many, many more that I can’t even think to mention at the moment…

Hardly do I ever see anymore, a true nuclear family (my family being one of those few).  I’ve come to realize over the years though that a family isn’t just the type of people that are in it.  It’s the fact that those people love each other, care for each other, and would be willing to even sacrifice their life or wellbeing for the safety and health and life of the other family members.

A family is dedication- a family is powerful in all its forms.  Even though every family at some point will hit rough spots, or even fall into deep chasms of despair, there is always that chance that everything will work out.

That’s why even though I’m a Christian, and I’m supposed to believe that homosexuality is wrong, I can’t say I believe that.  I could never venture down that road, but if two people choose to love each other, then I’m all for it.  The only exception I have to this rule though, is if you are closely related to the person you are in love with—because, well, that just doesn’t work on so many levels.

Now, for those of you who are asking me wtf?  or saying I’m a hypocrite for saying such things, go ahead, but I’m going to state my opinion on this issue.

Who is really ruining the family?  To me, the people ruining the family are:

-people who go through quick marriages only to realize maybe the next day that it was wrong
-so called families that try to stay together even though there is abuse going on-
-the abusers are ruining the family, whether it’s sexual abuse or drug or alcohol abuse
-those who say they love each other, even though they physically harm each other out of hate, malice, or any other reason
-people who are so quick to divorce without talking over problems that should have been forseen before getting married- whether financial, attitude, or idiosyncrasies

A lot of people would still call these groups “families” because of who is in them, but once you’ve lost the love and compassion needed for a family, it’s been automatically dissolved.

For all of those who haven’t guessed, you most definitely need God in the center of your family- to be the focus, to learn and show everyone that you are serious with your love for them.

It’s odd though that I would be mentioning my cause for writing this and having God in the center in the same writing, but I’m serious about it.

I feel that even though homosexuality isn’t condoned by the Bible or God or a lot of Christians, I don’t think that it should prevent people from having a loving caring family.  As long as the two members of that relationship are truly in love and willing to be caring to all who are around them as family, and even their enemies, then that is a family.  This shouldn't prevent them from having children of their own or adopting them, as long as they raise them with the love needed to make a child become a wonderful adult.

The same rules apply for everyone to me.  If there is a homosexual couple that isn’t truly in love, or not caring or not willing to make the relationship work, then it’s wrong, they shouldn’t be a family.

After all, that’s what families are right?  Love? Care? Compassion? Dedication?

So please, let this matter rest folks!  Quit making me want to gag with  your false logic and give me a real reason to be concerned about the family.  

Thank you.

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